Thoughts on Waiting…
“It is very strange that the years teach us patience – that the shorter our time, the greater our capacity for waiting.” Elizabeth Taylor, A Wreath of Roses
When I found myself playing the waiting game in several different situations recently, it came to me that waiting is a significant aspect of all of our lives… One of the key messages of the Hanged Man in the Tarot is that waiting serves an important purpose in any good plan. Over the years I have come to respect the great wisdom in those words. Although I will probably never have much patience with line-ups, I have learned a great deal of patience with waiting “for the right moment.” Occasionally, those close to me have been frustrated with my apparent lack of action around some issues, but I use the waiting time to my advantage… to observe the situation, and to listen, not only to what is going on around me, but also within me… I’m not only waiting for the right moment, but also for the right words, the right attitude and the right approach… waiting gives me time to process my emotions so that actions are thoughtful..
Waiting can trigger a lot of fears however. as in waiting for the other shoe to drop. If you’re waiting for that right partner to appear, or a better job, or for a deal to close, or for a special someone to return, the waiting can seem endless, and can get you to thinking that you’ll never get what you think you need… the longer you wait, the more those dark self-doubts creep in.
But waiting is purposeful – the universe’s way of making sure you’re ready and that you’ve made the best choice… waiting gives you time to check yourself, and to prepare, to adjust your attitude, to rethink your goals, to take a second look at where you want to go… sometimes you discover that if you hadn’t waited you would have set off in the wrong direction… A good reason to wait on big decisions after a crisis is to let the dust settle,… I have often advised a client to wait on making a move, or a big change when they are in the midst of dealing with a difficult drama,… they will see the way forward much more clearly when the emotions have calmed.
I think of the times, though, when I want to ask, what are you waiting for? There are times when waiting isn’t a good plan – waiting for the perfect moment to merge into heavy traffic can cause an accident or at least something of a pile up behind you; waiting to buy a new blouse until you lose some weight is just another way of punishing yourself for not doing better; waiting too long to ask for a date could end up costing you an interesting relationship… a lot of good opportunities have been lost because people waited too long… they let their insecurities get in the way of purposeful action…
You can know when it’s time to stop waiting by making the most of your waiting time…. There’s a lot you can do to distract yourself from the anxiety of waiting for your ship to come in… instead of getting caught up in thinking of what you are lacking still, think of what you will do when you have it… use the time to evaluate goals, review plans, and to consider your option. Have a plan B and C to fall back on if things don’t come through as you hope, … notice the fears, acknowledge your doubts – and then set them aside – affirm and visualize what you want coming to you, feel how you will feel when you have it…by using the time productively, your fears will stay in the background. Then your intuition can kick in so you are able to read the flow of energy and know whether you should continue to wait – or not…
“Patience is power.
Patience is not an absence of action;
rather it is “timing”
it waits on the right time to act,
for the right principles
and in the right way.” Fulton J. Sheen
We can help you know when to wait, or when to stop waiting
Get a Reading