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Last Good-Byes
We would all wish for a last good bye when we lose a loved one.... and there are a lot of reasons why spirit reaches out from the other side to offer a last good bye...
Mum passed 5days ago. I was preparing the order of service, and decided to delete a great deal of what I initially had written, I uncapped the marker pen when it leaked and ruined my pants. Also lamps have blown and one bulb had come out of its fitting, sitting on the floor. I've read some of your site regarding this. Mum was a very kind and generous person. I've asked for her help with some things I need to do, spirit is preparing me for something big, I think. Is there any way for her to assist or should I ask her to go to the light. She was always doing things for others and went suddenly maybe voluntarily, not wanting to burden anyone. maybe you could help me, I feel she could do alot of good for alot of people and yet I'd hate to hold her. ps I know there's a wait if 4-6 weeks, but if you could find time, its for the good of many... Frank
Perhaps you are holding on to her still. Without realizing it..She just wants to know you will be ok. Just suggest to her she goes to the light .. Then let her go. She will still do her work from the other side. God bless and white light Barbi
I recently lost my boyfriend at age 43 on his birthday May 31st, 2003. He had a brain stem stroke and could not be saved. He did wait for me to say goodbye and that it was ok to pass on and maybe he would understand what I have been trying to tell him about the afterlife. I am still very hurt. We has so many plans and with all my upbringing I know we live time and time again. I have tried to connect with my higher self to talk to Scott, but only little signs. Can you tell me something that will help ease my lose. Cindi
My sincerest condolences - this is terribly difficult. A couple of things I want to say here. First off, please continue sending your loving thoughts to him and prayers. These are very important for a newly departed spirit - especially if the circumstances were sudden. Recognize a couple of things also. One is that this spirit has to separate (from earth life) and it will feel like you can't communicate with him for awhile. I believe there is a natural separation the sprits have to go through upon leaving earth and it can feel silent for awhile before he's "ready" to communicate. Think of it like an orientation to a new university or something like that. Also, you are full of grief right now and this is normal and understandable. There also feels to me to be an element of shock. Unfortunately, one can't race past the process. Initially, you have no choice but to go through the stages of grief and anger and so forth and focus on your own healing.
So
much of your desire is peppered by need to hear from him that it can form a
natural block from you hearing him. This is not bad news though - simply
process and stage. Do what you need to do to deal with your loss here - if
grief counseling is appropriate - take it - if not - use the support systems
you have around you and deal honestly and naturally with what you feel.
That will help "clear the aura" if you will and the day will come where
communication and the feeling of that spirit around sometimes will come. I
know that because you were intimates, you might find that there is nothing
for a time. I believe this is because "they" know in a higher wisdom that
you can then stop the grieving process and begin living for the dream and
communications you can feel, essentially keeping the relationship alive as
though he is still in this world. It's a sort of protection I think to
allow the survivor to deal with what has happened and move through the
necessary stages and not avoid those stages.
The communication will happen. It is a matter of time and process. It will
come naturally. It will happen when you can handle it in terms of not
having it suspend the process of grieving and healing. I understand none of
this is pleasant, but it must be done. Be honest, natural and open with
yourself. It will hurt sometimes - but - you do not have to be "fully
healed" either to hear from him. Trust in your own guides and angels and in
his process too - don't chase it - just be receptive and the day will come
and you will hear from him and you will feel his love.
It is there now - forever and without end - that is the truth of love. He's
transforming now to another reality - for the most part, the two worlds are
not meant to interact in day to day life - but - the love transcends all
barriers - the comfort will be given and the love timeless and the mutual
communication will be there when you are both in the "places" you each need
to be brought about as a result of this untimely passing.
You have my prayers.
Mary-Anne
My grandpa was diagnosed with Lung Cancer in Feb. of 2003. The news was the worst my family ever heard, yet we continued to live life day to day. Well, about 2 weeks ago my grandpa suddenly went down hill as far as his health goes. On April 1st, my mom, aunt and my grandma needed some help taking care of my grandpa as he was in a hospital bed and not doing well at all. My grandma told my mom to call the neighbor across the street who was a nurse and ask her to come over to help them out. My mom called and later, the neighbor came to the door ready to help.
My grandpa had been "out of it" that whole day...until he saw her walk in the door and over to his bed. His face just lit up and I saw the real man who I had admired so much. He smiled soo big and said, "Hi!!!" to her. He wasn't able to talk because the cancer had went to his brain. He somehow managed to get that out once he saw her which made us all smile. He then gave her a kiss and hugged her. She for some reason, made his day. I had seen my grandpa reacting like how he would previously when he was well.
She had left and my grandpa was out of it again. Well, to make a long story short, my grandpa passed away the following morning at 4:15 or so. The funeral was a couple of days ago and the neighbors attended. She was telling my mom that something woke her up that morning he died. She for some reason just woke up. She went outside to get her paper and when she opened her door, there she saw a circle of white feathers in the shape of a halo. She went and got her husband to ask what he thought it looked like and he said the same thing, a halo. They looked to see if there was a dead bird or something and then swept the circle of feathers up. Later when she found out that he had died, she realized it might've been a way of my grandpa Thanking her and saying goodbye. I don't know what it is, but there was something special about her to make my grandpa happy when he saw her being in the conditions he was in.
If you could help me out and tell me what the significance of something like this is, I'd really appreciate it. Thanks alot! Randee
What a beautiful man he must have been, I am sorry for your loss. Know that he is still with you in spirit - again, the halo is his way of letting you all know... I have a sense there is an old soul connection between your Grandpa and the nurse and that she may have helped him to cross over that night... The feathers were a way of acknowledging his gratitude... I can only conjecture what this might have been about, given my experience... there are some souls here on earth who actively participate in helping folks cross over - often they are not actually conscious of what they are doing in their dream worlds... I believe your neighbour is one of those true healers who has the ability to help folks cross over - it would be natural that she would become a nurse... so when your Grandpa saw her, being so close to death, the veils between dimensions are very thin, he recognized the angel in her and knew she would help him to pass more easily... the feathers, God bless him, were his way of letting her know that she is an angel, and probably doesn't know it, and that he was grateful for her assistance... Lotsa LLLove, Danielle
I don't know the meaning. I just feel that what happened meant something. Maybe you know. My Mother In Law, whom has lived with us for several years, just died. Her funeral was today. When we got back home we had at least a 1000 or more loud black birds in our trees in our yard. I have never encountered such a sight, and the sound was amazing, in my entire life. We all stood outside in amazement. They were everywhere and they only seemed to be in our yard and nobody else's. They are gone now. But, what the heck was that all about? My gut says it means something? But, what? Please e-mail me with your response. Thank you Catherine
That was Mom saying good bye... it is not so unusual to have some event like this around a funeral... her way of letting you all know that she loved you...and that she'd be sending lots of messages from tehother side, so pay attnetionLotsa LLLove, Danielle
My father passed away 10 days ago, it was unexpected and he was only 51 yrs old. Myself have experienced many signs since his passing. We have had lights flickering, tv turn off to the point it had no signal and we had to personally fix it, and during the afternoon as I awoke from a nap this strange ringing sound appeared in my head and I heard my dads voice say " goodbye hunny ". Only 3 days after his death I was standing in my mom's driveway and my aunts car was parked in front of the house and the car beeped twice and I was wondering if there is any significant reasoning for that. Any help would be much appreciated. Bethany
I am sorry for the passing of your father, but at the same time, he is
defiantly wanting you to know that he is saying his final good bye to you. I
feel that he passed on without telling you something and that he does most
definitely want you to know that he will be looking after you from above. I am
sensing some unfinished business and that he needs you to know that it is him
and will cause these things to happen till he has your attention. You will
find that you will receive great messages from him, and as on earth he still
relies on you to take care of your mother and life. Just be patient with it as
it is his way of sending his love to you. Blessings
Kimmi
It is a clear case of someone trying to get your attention and let you know
they are there and well. I feel he too was stunned by his own death which
blindsided him. Now he wants to communicate. Acknowledge his signals and
talk to him letting him know you are well and you understand where he is and
what happened and you have accepted it. You can say how much you miss his
earthly presence and are glad for the communication,
Love,
Victoria
For those who are gifted with the ability to connect beyond the normal, revelations of their abilities come as a surprise, sometimes as the result of a traumatic event. Your story is typical for such an experience. Undoubtedly you have the gift which comes from a family where similar phenomena are not unusual. When I look into my Kabbala charts I can see your father was also a gifted person, trying to contact you after he passed away, giving you a sort of quiet blessing in your spiritual discovery, illustrates this. Expect more such events and signs but do not discuss them with those who do not understand or do not believe in the ability to communicate with the dead. The three days stand as a symbol of Christ's resurrection. It is no coincidence your father connected with you three days after he passed away.
One of the Kabbala teachings on the meaning of the number "three" or
anything which comes in groups of three, is the human body, head, torso and
limbs. Another explanation hints to the danger of a third party intervening
in your life. Be aware of the fact there might be a third invisible person
entering your life.
You should trust yourself before anyone else as your spirit is part of your
being a gifted person.
Raziel
My grandmother just past. Me and my family went to her fathers cemetery plot and put her ashes next to him. after we were done a white butterfly flew in between us. I brought it to my mothers attention. I was wondering if that was a sign from my grandmother that she was happy of our decision thank you
Yes, I would say that that was definitely Grandma letting you that she was happy!!! thanks for sharing. White butterflies are said to represent an angel, so... this is Grandmothera saying she is with the angels...Lotsa LLLove, Danielle
My grandfather recently passed away. One day sitting in his yard : thinking of him I looked up into the sky and saw a beautiful rainbow in a : cloud. What is the significant of the rainbow? Was it him? Thank you!
Yes, that was probably a message from Grandfather, letting you know that he was well - and also that we wished you well! Lotsa LLLove, Danielle
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