By Dr Jill Ammon-Wexler
Many people today feel as though the rug has been pulled from beneath their feet!
They are being forced to ideal with a turn of events that is beyond their control-natural disasters, the plunging economy, and just plain old bad luck.
“The only time we ever know what’s really going on is when the rug is pulled out and we can’t find anywhere to land,”
Buddhist philosopher Pema Chödrön writes in her book When Things Fall Apart. There’s great truth in this, since such challenges force us to determine what we do, and do not, truly “need.”
What can one do? Responding positively to such events requires a deep kind of inner strength called resilience. And those who have it usually do far better than those who do not.
What is resilience? It’s defined as “the ability to accept ambiguity and find hope amid uncertain or threatening conditions.”
Resilient people do not let adversity define them. They transcending pain and grief by perceiving bad times as temporary, and believe better times are coming.
Experts disagree about how much of resilience is genetic. People do seem to differ in their inborn ability to handle life’s stresses. But resilience can also be cultivated. At the heart of resilience is belief in yourself.
It’s possible to strengthen your belief in yourself by “revisiting” past events and and discovering the strength you built by surviving them. Resilience is not the ability to escape unharmed. Resilient people have scars, but they avoid blaming themselves for what has gone wrong, and take responsibility for what goes right in their lives.
At the heart of building your resilience is a technique called “Reframing.” This is a way of shifting your focus from the cup half empty, to the cup half full. Take the case of one woman who had been emotionally abused by her older brother throughout her childhood. Her healing occurred in an instant when she reframed those years of abuse into a realization that she was a truly powerful survivor.
Re-examine your life story to discover how heroic your acts were as a child. Go back to an incident, identify your resulting survivor’s strengths, and build your self-esteem and resilience.
The author, Dr. Jill Ammon-Wexler, is a renowned brain/mind researcher, and was one of the first in the world to introduce brainwave training to the corporate world. She is the co-developer of the web’s first brain gym – the quantumbraingym.com
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