Life has a way of exploding or crashing when we least expect it to… shocked, we are suddenly surrounded by debris, in chaos, our sense of direction and purpose lost in the shattered pieces of our lives…  Perhaps the unexpected drama comes from an earthquake, a flood, a terrible storm, or from the death of a loved one, the breakdown of a relationship, or a failed project or business. However it comes, the explosion – or crushing crash – is a bolt from the blue. We suddenly find ourselves in breakdown mode. What to do? 

Whatever triggers the crash, it signals a time of change, usually BIG change… and scary… the trouble is that the explosion is usually such a shock that at first, all you can do is look around to assess the damage and shake your head in the hope of clearing the fog from your brain….  You have hit Ground Zero… from this position it is next to impossible to do anything more than think of your next step… You must wait and see what it all means, what needs repairing, before you can begin to think of where you are going next and how you'll get there… rebuilding may be your first thought, but before you can act, you must decide if you want to, if it's worth rebuilding, if perhaps it is more wise to let go and move on…. the crash is at the very least telling you that you are being called to build something different..

When you hit Ground Zero, you must give yourself time to move through the trauma… this is not the moment for impulsive decisions. You need to let those first overwhelming waves of grief, pain and fear pass through…in the moment, let the dust settle…clear the debris wherever you can… take time to  do a preliminary assessment of the damages… it may take days, weeks, months, or even years to understand what the true impact of this explosion will be…… unwise to rush to conclusions or new decisions.

Your best move in the aftermath of a crash is really no move – in other words, be still until you know how you feel and what is going on around you… then reach out, connect with any others impacted, see how they feel, and call for help.  That is probably the most important step – to reach out for help… whether from a nearby stranger, a family member, a close friend, or a professional, a doctor or counsellor…  don't try to deal with the aftereffects of the explosion or crash all by yourself… call 911 and call on your angels and guides… they will know what you need and how to get it to you… listen to your inner voices, trust your intuition in those moments… this is when your birthright – your instinct – comes most strongly into play, to protect you from danger and help you to move away from harm, and then to heal as quickly as possible…

I found myself at Ground Zero soon after I came home from the hospital after the hip replacement surgery this summer.  It was too much for my developmentally disabled son who took that moment to tantrum, and absolve himself of any responsibility for helping me or caring for our home… to make matters worse, our long-time boarder decided this was the right time to give his inner bully full reign… I felt attacked at every level, pushed into making decisions like selling our home that I was in no shape to have to think about…. but there I was, alone and very afraid…. I was ashamed that I had let these two men get the best of me…I had seen it coming, but wasn't strong enough to try to stop it… I know I create my own reality, but why would I create such a betrayal? What am I supposed to learn from this experience? The answers will come eventually….

For the time being, I was flattened…. but then I started hearing stories of similar breakdowns from you… "something" was in the air…. and so I was inspired to share my story… perhaps it can help someone in similar circumstances….. knowing how to react when you find yourself at Ground Zero could save you from acting on impulse and making a bad situation worse.

The Wheel of Life keeps turning, and so it is that when disaster strikes, we must pick ourselves up, dust ourselves off, and get back to work… in so doing, we accept that everything has changed… we let go of the past and move on…. trusting that in time, the tears will stop, a new path will manifest….  ultimately, the key to our future success is in taking life a day at a time…

1 Comment
  1. Danielle,

    Yes, we have all been there – as life goes, none are really exempt from at least one unexpected crash – some more severe than others making it harder to maneuver through the hurt and confusion. 

    You have heard so many stories thru the years of others "crashes", and have offered such wonderful & caring insight (speaking personally). My heart goes out to you and I know that your strength & insight will prevail & guide you through this as well.

    I wish you the very best always.

    Bev Howard


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