Not everyone is here to have a soulmate. We are souls having a human experience in order to evolve. For some of us that may mean having a terminal illness as a life experience, so we can be nurtured and loved through a difficult time.
Some of us are here to have a ‘vacation’ life, with not many challenges or growth. Some of us are here to be obese or unattractive, for us to learn about unconditional love and self-love in a society that worships being skinny, attractive and youthful.
For those who are here to have soulmates, that relationship is pretty effortless. We don’t have to go chasing it. It comes in, we connect, and it just clicks. Yes, there are the normal ups and downs, but if your partner is cheating on you, or treating you very badly, you can be sure that you are not having a soulmate experience.
So, what about the people we are so deeply drawn to? Well, we often do not willingly go towards our life lessons. We get stuck in wanting to have fun, or to “have it all” on earth plane terms. Like children who do not want to eat our vegetables; spirit often times has to ‘sugar coat something for us to engage.
Our soul tries to direct us to individuals who share our purpose in life, complement our strengths, and supplement our weaknesses. But there is no guarantee that these ideal mates are going to look the way we expect, or be of our own background ~ Carolyn Miller
If a person attracts you deeply – whether it is a friendship or romance – proceed with caution, but proceed. Trust that spirit knows better than you what you need to learn next in order to grow and evolve, and have a better quality of life once you get through the lesson.
Lessons do not have to be traumatic. They can be fun! We can approach a relationship knowing it the other person is not ‘the one’, but that we will experience love, and fun, and growth. So, we go into it, not burying our head in the sand with idealistic self-talk. Instead we engage with the attitude of “Let’s see what happens, and how I feel, and how this all affects me”.
If we become control freaks about our lessons, then spirit has to sometimes hit us with a ‘two by four’ to get our attention -and that is definitely no fun!
Readings can help you develop our own intuition, so you will begin to sense the lessons in front of you. Then you can go ‘into the classroom’ with a sense of perspective.